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5 Ways Friends And Family Can Sabotage Your Fitness And Weight Loss Journey
While on your fitness and weight loss journey, there are going to be many challenges that you’ll have to conquer so you can succeed in achieving your goals. Unfortunately, many of those challenges are going to be from friends, co-workers, and family members.
So I acknowledge that it takes a lot of guts to get out there and start achieving your goals. The process is not easy and it’s not fast and you’re going to have to endure a lot of pain and heartache from the actions of people around you, even when they are your loved ones.
If the world was simple and your friends and family members were aware and all-loving they would support you 100% in the way that you need to be supported.
But let’s face it, people are screwed up. They have a lot of baggage that affects other people around them and that includes you. They are going to pull you into their world of baggage and you’re just going to have to deal with it like a SuperHero Goddess that you are.
Here are some ways jerks, friends, and family members try to destroy your deepest desires to change your body, your health, and fitness goals.
Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #1 – Making comments either directly or passive-aggressively.
The more you’re out there, making an effort to change your health and body the more likely people are going to comment. It could be in a positive light but most of the times it’s pretty negative.
Know that this is going to happen and you can’t really force people to change their jerk status. Understand that this is your life, so you’llneed to create boundaries.
Here are examples of the experiences of a few Curvy Goddesses and how they handled it.
“A few times that I attended a Zumba class I had people tell me that I dance pretty good for being a big girl. Stupid remarks like that give me more motivation. I love myself no matter what size I am.” — Erika A.
“It’s the eye rolling I get when I am walking…. I am at 88lbs lost… and lost 80 of that before having a gastric sleeve. I am going to take the plunge and find a gym, it is getting too hot to walk during the day here in Texas outside, and the prospect of walking in the dark is not for me. So.. my mindset is, they can kiss my ass… I have proven to myself I have the courage to do things I set my mind to do.” — Lynn C.
“The most outrageous thing I heard while walking into my gym was, “I don’t know what you’re doing. Black women are supposed to be big!” This came from a Black woman standing outside of my gym.” — Taye DV.
It’s perfectly fine to tell these people that you don’t appreciate their comments. Look them directly in the eyes and know that you have a right to do what you’re doing.
‘”Good for youuuuuu’ ‘You can do this’ They say it, like I’m a special needs child. Head tilted to the side and everything.” — Tariece L.
Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #2 – Pushing food on you.
Right when you’ve announced to your co-workers and family that you’re going to make changes all of a sudden there’s a pizza party at the office and your mother has invited you to a special dinner just because…she loves you.
No, it’s not your imagination. Saboteurs are everywhere so you’ll have to be prepared. Maybe keep it a secret to most people and share it with only one or two of your closest friends who give you the support you need.
And it gets worse. When you start losing weight they come out of the woodwork; the jealous ones, the ones who are afraid that they are losing you. They are all going to come out when they start seeing just a glimpse of progress and change in you.
So again, I warn you to be prepared.
Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #3 – Discouraging you from working out.
One of my friends is on a winning streak with her work outs and shared with me last week that she’s getting a lot of push back from her family and friends. Some are commenting that she doesn’t need to work out, that she’s being too obsessive.
So the opinion of your family and friends matter more than what you want to achieve in YOUR life?
Because if it does, then quit right now.
Because you’re not going to get through another week, month, or year being controlled by the opinions of the people around you. You’re giving them the keys to your life.
Everybody needs to exercise. And being obsessed with it is not a disastrous thing. I’d red flag it if you’re working out 4 – 8 hours a day which all of those Biggest Losers participants do, but noone says anything about their insane, dangerous, and unrealistic exercise habits.
Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #4 – Making you the bad guy for changing.
Ah, playing games, giving you grief by trying to make you feel guilty for changing for the bettter. This always makes me laugh. And I’m laughing constantly because it happens consistently with my clients who make radical changes in their lifestyle and it starts to physically show.
They report back to me saying so-and-so is acting weird around me. Or so-and-so shoved a fried food platter in front of me and told me to eat it then told me that we had better have a talk when I said “no” to the food.
There’s anger and hurt feelings in this drama situation all because you’re getting healthy and fit and focusing time to do good things for yourself.
So that’s what it looks like on the surface.
But it goes deeper…
Some are afraid that they are losing you. They’ve only known you a certain way and for them to experience the changes in you can be scary for them.
You may be a reminder for others close to you that what they are doing to their bodies is not what they truly want to do but they are still not willing to change so their reaction is to act defensively.
Others will give you the reason that you’re being too healthy and obsessive. But I don’t buy that. It may be that they can’t control you anymore and they are masking it turning the table, expressing to you that you’re being too obsessive.
So now, from experience, I give a warning to my clients to prepare for what’s coming. It really is challenging to make changes in your life and even harder to constantly deflect the negative reactions toward what you are doing.
It truly is par for the course and it’s something that you need to learn how to handle and manage.
You’ll need to ask yourself what is of utmost importance to you. Is what you’re doing for you more important than making your friends and family comfortable?
Sabotage Your Weight Loss and Fitness Journey Tactic #5 – Being the food and fitness police.
The star is the one who is doing it, taking action. You are actively achieving your dreams so the critics are the other people on the sidelines who think they know better.
That unsolicited advice worthy of the eye-roll. Don’t buy into it. If you’ve got your plan mapped out there is no room to go on a tangent and listen to these self-claimed coaches and experts. You didn’t hire them.
And to be honest with you, they can easily side-track your focus and your efforts.
Take a deep, long breath and remind yourself your plan. It doesn’t matter what their true intention is, if you didn’t ask for advice then ignore the commentary.
Whatever the reason behind all of the crazy, hurt-filled comments and behaviors from your closest friends, loved ones, and co-workers while you’re actively pursuing your goals know that it’s their stuff.
You certainly do not have to take on all the baggage, and if you do, understand that it will most likely veer you off to a permanent halt of what is important to you.
It’ll be the weight loss and fitness sabotage tactics from them that worked! Be upfront. Be steadfast. Be passionate.
Hope you enjoyed this article about the 5 major ways friends and family may sabotage your weight loss and fitness goals.
Has it ever happened to you? What did they tell you and how did you handle it? Share by commenting below this post!
Until next time Curvy Goddess, Stay Strong and Stunning!
That’s why I make it a point to make my weight loss journey a secret.. So I’ll just surprise them. lol
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Great post! It is very inspiring and gives motivation to people who try to lose weight and who are surrounded by such ‘friends’.
Thanks so much!
It is a great truth, loved it.
Incredible post, you covered it perfectly! Sometimes the hardest part about losing weight is having to deal with the criticism and jealousy from loved ones. It is a painful realization.
Haters gonna hate. It’s just jealousy because we’ve got off our butts and have taken positive actions 🙂
Ahhh! I’ve had every.single.one of these at some point or other. I lost about 80 pounds almost 9 years ago and eventually changed jobs because nobody at the old workplace could get over it. “You’re too skinny!” is another favorite of mine. “You don’t need to lose any more!” Well, I know what I want … so maybe I do, maybe I don’t.
My other favorite line is the reverse of these: “you inspire me!” or “you’re so inspirational!” Then why aren’t you doing anything? Stop telling me I’m inspiring you and get out there and MOVE.
Ultimately, only you can be responsible for your own self because whether they love you or hate you, not everyone is going to help you.
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Hey there!
Great post and I really can identify with a lot of this information.
There was one point when my girlfriend really got upset I was going to the gym too much.
Some things to think about here 🙂
WOW!! You’re not alone!
Family, friends, colleagues push snacks, drinks because they think I am starving myself. What they don’t realise is that I am done eating all the crap. Now, I will eat real food and nothing else. I won;t let what others say sabotage my health. It’s not just about my weight. It’s about my health and my commitment to remain healthy.
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Amazing post! Very informative and motivational. Thanks for sharing
You’re very welcome!
Great post, lots of good encouragement, and empathy. I have been exploring the benefits of bringing the weight loss and fitness training into the home so that all the family can do their own program, and support each other. Small and compact home gyms are becoming popular and are very effective.
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Great way to get the family involved together!
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Hey Diane,
Nice article. Hats off to your tips Also check this 7 day diet plan
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You really are awesome! Stay classy! 🙂
Fitness can be sometimes tiring plus the annoying comments of people. It is better to leave that behind and start doing some simple push ups.
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i dont understand those who do sabotage.. they are sabotaging theirselves
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My mother is a culprit here. She never let’s me diet. Says that i don’t need it. She does it just out of love.
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I confess that my parents do not help me at all when it comes to being healthier, for them this is bullshit eating natural foods. Sometimes this is very difficult.
If your friends and family don’t support your goal to lose weight or reach your personal fitness level, they aren’t real friends. Better not to involve them too much in your pursuit of a healthier life.
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I feel friends who doubt we can lose weight is because they have doubt of losing weight themselves. Just like people who wants to quit their jobs and start their own business. Friends would say its dangerous and risky, as they don’t think they could do it themselves.
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I have seen so many women especially be de-motivated by partners just when they are getting results. I like your 5 list approach and some of these I have seen over and over when it comes to getting results and the pressure partners push on the new look women get.
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I have seen so many women especially be de-motivated by partners just when they are getting results. I like your 5 list approach and some of these I have seen over and over when it comes to getting results and the pressure partners push on the new look women get.
While on your fitness and weight loss journey, there are going to be many challenges that you’ll have to conquer so you can succeed in achieving your goals. Unfortunately, many of those challenges are going to be from friends, co-workers, and family members.
So I acknowledge that it takes a lot of guts to get out there and start achieving your goals. The process is not easy and it’s not fast and you’re going to have to endure a lot of pain and heartache from the actions of people around you, even when they are your loved ones.
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People can be absolutely horrible when you’re on a positive journey. It usually brings up the insecurities in them, unfortunately. A great article which I wish I’d read in preparation before my journey! It can blindside you at first.
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Hi Diane,
It seems like everybody tries to sabotage us on our health and weight-loss journey.I especially hated the passive-aggressive comments I received when I stopped eating meat four years ago. Stay Strong!
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